In the spring of 1996, my mom called me with news that my sister was getting married soon. When I arrived home from Germany for the wedding, I noticed that there was something different about my little sister. She was no longer the smart-mouth party girl looking to have a good time. Instead, she was standing in front of the church leading devotion. I can still see her standing there singing "I'm Running for My Life". For those of you who are not familiar with the song, the chorus says "If anybody ask you what's the matter with me, you just tell them that I'm saved, sanctified, Holy Ghost filled, fire baptized. I've got Jesus on my side. I'm running for my life".
As a church novice and an extremely active member of the sinner's union at that time, I did not fully understand the magnitude of the song. Like many of us, she had some habits that were in hot pursuit. They wanted to know why they had been kicked to the curb and what they could do to be down again. If she had slowed down, the past habits would have overtaken her. If she had turned to the left or right, Satan was there with a scrumptious temptation. Therefore, she had to run for her life with the firm assurance that her victory was rooted in Him.
In Ephesians, the Great Apostle Paul says that in Him (Jesus Christ), we have been chosen before the foundations of the world, redeemed through His blood and sealed by the Holy Spirit of promise. In Him, we have obtained an inheritance and received the wisdom of the mystery of His will. (Ephesians 1:3-14) Through the cross of Calvary, the Father has given us everything we need in Him.
In Him, we find the solution to a successful marriage. As the author and finisher of our faith, he will show us how to love our spouse in ways that we could not even imagine. He will help us understand their desires while supplying us with the wisdom and resources to fulfill those desires. He will help us understand the grace we have via the blood of the Lamb as well as the importance of extending the same grace we have received to someone else.
For while we were yet in our sins, Christ died for us the ungodly. (Romans 5:8) While we were doing things we had no business doing, God the Father thought enough of us that He would send His only begotten Son to die for us. (John 3:16) As a result, the least we can do is extend the same grace to our spouse. We may not like what they have done but we love them and we can extend grace to them.
This Christ-centered grace creates an atmosphere of unparalleled liberty within the marriage. We are not pointing fingers at one another with a judgmental mentality and a berating tongue. Instead we are forgiving one another under the power of God's grace and Christ's sacrifice. In Him, we have been liberated so that we may love each other the way we deserve to be loved.
So let me ask you this question, have you placed your marriage "In Him"? Have you made the decision to unconditionally love one another with the same grace that has been extended to you? If you are like us, you have spent far too much time trying to fix your marriage on your own. After years of wondering in the wilderness, we have decided to trust Him. What about you? Have you stopped trying to fix everything in your marriage by yourself and given it to Jesus? Try it and watch Your Marriage Succeed?